You’re usually the one who ends up figuring it out. You notice what needs to happen, think ahead, and step in when something is off. That can make you dependable, but it can also leave you overthinking, taking on more than your share, and feeling responsible for keeping things from going sideways. You may know exactly why you do this and still find yourself doing it again.

You need someone who can see past how well you carry it.

I’m Marissa Honjiyo - a licensed marriage and family therapist. I like to describe myself as honest, kind, and no bullshit. I’ll shoot straight from the hip, challenge you when it’s useful, and tell you what I’m noticing. If something is keeping you stuck, we’ll talk about it. If a pattern keeps showing up, we’ll get curious about it together. I take the work seriously. I work well with people who think fast, make connections quickly, and want a therapist who can actually keep up.

I specialize in anxiety, attachment wounds, relationship issues, and eating disorders. I work with adults who overthink, take on too much responsibility, and keep getting pulled into the same relationship patterns.

In the same way we are hurt in relationship, I also believe that healing happens in relationship. Our work can help you understand yourself more deeply, work through family-of-origin patterns, and build relationships that feel less reactive and more secure.

My approach is grounded in attachment theory, relational therapy, and psychodynamic therapy. I’m also trained in Brainspotting Level 1 and Restoration Therapy Level 2.

If you’re ready to do the work, therapy with me can be a place to stop repeating the same patterns, understand what’s driving them, and create real change.

When something needs to change

• You’re at a crossroads with your partner. You’re talking about moving, getting married, starting a family, or making another decision that makes the future feel more real. Patterns you could live with before suddenly feel more important, and you’re wondering what needs to change before you take the next step together.

• You’re becoming a version of yourself you don’t particularly like. You’re tired of initiating, reminding, managing, anticipating, or compensating—and increasingly resentful that things seem to fall apart when you stop. You may understand why you’re reacting this way and still not know how to stop.

• A relationship has become harder to ignore. The same problem keeps coming back, and you’re starting to wonder whether the relationship can keep going this way, whether something actually needs to change, or what your part is in a dynamic you can’t seem to resolve.

• You understand the pattern, but understanding it hasn’t changed it. You’re self-aware. Maybe you’ve been in therapy before. You can connect some of the dots between where this comes from and what you do now, but you still find yourself repeating the same reactions, relationships, or roles.