You’ve learned how to function at a high level, even when you’re overwhelmed. You show up, push through, and handle what needs to be handled. Other people may see you as grounded, thoughtful, and reliable—but they don’t always see how much pressure you put on yourself, how hard it is to let your guard down, or how lonely it can feel to always be the one carrying so much. Underneath the competence, you may feel anxious, stuck, disconnected from yourself, or tired in a way that rest alone doesn’t fix.

You need someone who can see past how well you carry it.

I’m Marissa Honjiyo. I’m a no bullshit therapist— honest, actively engaged, and straightforward. If something is keeping you stuck, we’ll talk about it. If a pattern keeps showing up, we’ll get curious about it together. You may be high-functioning, self-aware, and still exhausted by the belief that if you let up, everything might catch up with you.

I specialize in anxiety, attachment wounds, relationship issues, and eating disorders. I work with high-functioning adults who are tired of surviving through self-control, overthinking, or staying one step ahead of what hurts.

In the same way we are hurt in relationship, I also believe that healing happens in relationship. Our work together can help you understand yourself more deeply, heal family-of-origin wounds, and build more secure, fulfilling relationships.

My approach is grounded in attachment theory, relational therapy, and psychodynamic therapy. I’m also trained in Brainspotting Level 1 and Restoration Therapy Level 2.

If you’re ready to do the work, therapy with me can be a place to stop repeating the same patterns, understand what’s driving them, and create real change.

When something needs to change

• You’re at a crossroads with your partner. You’re talking about moving, getting married, starting a family, or making another decision that makes the future feel more real. Patterns you could live with before suddenly feel more important, and you’re wondering what needs to change before you take the next step together.

• You’re becoming a version of yourself you don’t particularly like. You’re tired of initiating, reminding, managing, anticipating, or compensating—and increasingly resentful that things seem to fall apart when you stop. You may understand why you’re reacting this way and still not know how to stop.

• A relationship has become harder to ignore. The same problem keeps coming back, and you’re starting to wonder whether the relationship can keep going this way, whether something actually needs to change, or what your part is in a dynamic you can’t seem to resolve.

• You understand the pattern, but understanding it hasn’t changed it. You’re self-aware. Maybe you’ve been in therapy before. You can connect some of the dots between where this comes from and what you do now, but you still find yourself repeating the same reactions, relationships, or roles.